Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Nerves?

Almost daily for the last nine months I have been accosted with the question, "Are you nervous?"  You see, I am getting married on Saturday and this question has become a part of about every waking hour. I understand people are just making conversation, or feeling out how ready I am for this huge commitment. Either way the answer is no.
 
I have found some sort of tranquility and balance through this whole ordeal. I don't mean "ordeal" in a bad way, it's just that as many of you know a wedding is a huge production. Well since Pinterest has exploded so have the expectations of most brides, myself included. However, I have enjoyed this process immensely. I was so fortunate to have had the help of so many family members and a couple close friends.
 
The women in my family have gathered around my mother's kitchen table (or floor) glue gun in hand, ready and willing to craft. After countless mishaps with hot glue,  hours of frustration that someone else's project is turning out better, and mental exhaustion, all of our hard work will now come to fruition.
 
My mother has been the queen bee on this wedding. I know most of you are cringing in fear and disgust from stories you have heard or experienced. I have to say though, this has been an incredible time for us. Her vision for how things should look and be is incredible, and I am lucky that she is willing and able to do all of this. If it weren't for her, I would be eloping in Ireland or something. Don't think that the thought hasn't crossed my mind several times during this process. It's not always perfect and it can be excruciating at times. But, when it comes down to it...I'm guess I am a real sap. I am excited for all of our family and friends to be together in one room, celebrating and enjoying the weekend together.
 
 
 
Between engagement parties, bachelorette weekends, and being spoiled by everyone we know, I would have to say this is has been the most amazing journey so far with my fiancĂ©. As much as I tease him and he drives me crazy (I'm sure he thinks I'm perfect), this has been an amazing ride. Yes, there are ups and downs, and no I don't expect everything to go smoothly on the wedding day. Perhaps that is where the tranquility comes in, I figure planning a wedding should resemble real life.
 
Real life can be unpredictable, planning doesn't always pan out, and sometimes you are thrown a curve ball when you least expect it. I think a wedding probably has all of these elements. No matter the amount of planning and hoping for things to go "perfectly", it never does. I have chosen to embrace this part. I believe if you hold on too much to the perfection you will miss out on what is right in front of you. For me that will be a beautiful day with my husband, and becoming a mother to two incredible young girls.
 
So my advice to other brides...Enjoy it. Everyone says it goes too fast, I will let you know after it is all said and done. Don't let the little things get to you and enjoy each moment frustrating or not. Because that is life, and this is hopefully a beautiful day in a long string of other beautiful days and moments.

 
 
 
 

1 comment:

  1. What a great attitude to have! Your wedding day is about two people coming together--in this case four :-)

    It's not about having the perfect or most impressive party (although Pinterest may make us think otherwise).

    I love your comparison of the wedding to every day life. My thoughts for the wedding day and moving forward: just have fun. If you're having fun, then everyone around you will too!

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